There you go AGAIN.
You know the dysfunctional patterns in your family. You swore you would never “do that.”
But wait … is that how you do relationships? Is it supposed to be painful?
You saw those habits in your family growing up. You noticed how family members treated each other. What was Okay, and what was not.
You want to stop those dysfunctional learned habits, but you have no idea what to do, instead.
In the heat of the moment, you just repeat them – automatically, unconsciously – and that brings pain.
All over again.
Families have a way of transmitting patterns across generations. If you’re not aware, you’ll keep repeating the good, the bad, and the ugly. Those multi-generational habits become the family legacy, good or bad.
But there’s good news.
It only takes one member of a generation to stop these patterns!
And that member can be you.
You can choose to do things differently. You can learn how to do that in therapy.
You’re probably still dealing with some of those wounds with your family. There’s conflict when you are together; there’s tension when you’re apart.
You want to talk to your family about so much, but you just can’t seem to do it. Your family doesn’t welcome straight talk. And if you persist, they push you away – shut you up.
The tension is palpable, and you don’t want to be a part of it. You’re conflicted.
You don’t want to distance from your family. At the same time, enough of playing those old games.
Some families can’t handle it.
You decide you’ll no longer be treated a certain way, so you try to have a dialogue with your family, in vain. There’s no dialogue. So, you resign to distancing yourself from them – to cut them off.
But therapy can help.
Fortunately, families feel safer discussing issues in therapy.
Family therapy can help work through old, unresolved issues and set new, healthy boundaries.
Family therapy provides the containment to facilitate discussions of issues that usually trigger defensiveness, criticism, misunderstandings, and conflict.
You can muster the willingness to resolve old patterns, once and for all.
Yes, you’ll bring up highly sensitive topics, but with good intention.
In therapy, we’ll resolve old conflicts, heal old wounds, and develop healthier habits to pass down to your future generations.
You’ll learn to set healthy boundaries.
You won’t have to avoid family members or dread family get-togethers anymore!
In therapy, we’ll address “the elephant in the room,” so no one has to “walk on eggshells” again.
We’ll unfold the family secrets that are keeping members stuck. We’ll work on healing and developing healthier, more respectful boundaries.
Resistance to change is normal.
You may feel a pull toward status quo, even if it’s painful and undesirable.
But if we agree we need a healthy change, we’ll tackle resistance and move forward.
We’ll work together to get rid of those destructive, dysfunctional patterns that interfere with your ability to relate. Instead, you’ll learn how to facilitate effective communication and resolve conflict.
We’ll manage resistance and denial, make needed repairs, promote healing, and develop healthy relational skills. In short, we’ll make healthy changes so your family will function better as a whole.
“The Buck Stops Here”
Once you replace those old, dysfunctional habits, you’ll pass on the healthy patterns from generation to generation.
You can pat yourselves on the back. It takes courage to tackle such changes, but the generations to come won’t have to deal with those dysfunctional patterns.
You’ll leave a much healthier legacy to your family.
And your kids and grandkids will thank you for that.
Ready to Start?
I’m here for you. Don’t waste another day drowning in conflict and loneliness.
Call (770) 352-0029 now to schedule an appointment to start changing those destructive family patterns.